If you look up the definition of leadership, it will be immediately evident that jealousy has nothing to do with leadership. In fact, there are many attributes that a great leader possesses, and in all the ones that I can think of, jealousy isn’t one that fits into that category. JEALOUSY DESTROYS LEADERSHIP QUALITIES! Leaders lead because they have a cause that they’re passionate about. They’re inspiring, humble, and seize every opportunity to make an indelible mark on their community without the need to draw attention to themselves, rather than their cause.
Don’t become the person who wants to lead or create something new to match someone else’s success. I truly believe that a phenomenal leader doesn’t set out to BE a leader at all. It is in fact, their lives that are so inspirational to others, that ultimately they find themselves… well, LEADING. So, before you declare yourself a leader, I challenge you to ponder this — Is your wish to lead, a direct result of some secret insecurity that you feel can only be overcome by a misplaced sense of infamy or popularity? Don’t want a LEADERship role/title because you want to say “Hey, I’m important because I have followers,” nor because you’re competing with someone trying to outdo them as they seem to be leading successfully – LEAD with passion and with purpose; the purpose that YOU were uniquely created for.
Refuse to allow envy, insecurity, and pride to suffocate the life out of your destiny! Learn to truly love and celebrate people, rather than sucking the life out them with envy, insecurity, and pride. We’re each born with a unique purpose, set on a personal path that leads us to our distinctively crafted destiny. Don’t covet what does not belong to you. Instead, take those passing egocentric emotions, and discover ways to make you a better YOU! The ability to do this will undoubtedly make sure you’re a top-notch leader and protect relationships.
When people around you are experiencing great success, don’t see it as a challenge to keep up, rather see it as an inspirational tool to drive you to do something great within the distinct place you’ve already carved out for yourself – grow better, not bitter. Challenge yourself to instead, celebrate those around you experiencing some level of success; do something to help them become more successful (spread the word about their business, service, product, etc). Their success can turn out to be a great benefit for you and your cause when you overcome the pangs of jealousy. If and when you feel covetousness rising, quickly acknowledge it and turn it into a blessing instead of a liability. When you’re able to conquer the green-eyed monster that seemingly finds its way into your mix about other’s successes, think about why you want to lead, who you want to lead, and where you are leading them to? There must be a solid purpose for doing it — and jealousy simply isn’t it!
You have the power to be create an important, lasting legacy and be considered one of the greatest leaders ever, but remember no great leader ever became a leader out of envy for another’s success; they became a leader because they were purposed to do so.
I believe Dolly Parton said it best — “Find out who you are, and do it on purpose.”
Live And Lead On Purpose!